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You are being permissive if you are a parent who is lenient, indulgent, compliant, and indifferent to your child.
You might say that you just love your child so much and you don't want her to get upset by not doing and giving what she wants.
But being a loving parent does not work that way. There are things that she wants that may not be good for her.
Being a permissive parent can result in many negative consequences. That is why you need to put some limits because if not, these consequences will most likely happen...
A child who lives with no rules and boundaries feel that respecting her parents is not important. She will think that she has the authority over her parents and she might even have the guts to curse or strike them.
She can also be disrespectful to other people. Discipline must start at home. Your child will not be able to respect anyone else if she is not taught to respect her parents.
She won't be able to do normal age-appropriate developmental tasks. Children like sweets and have their own food preferences.
She might not like to eat vegetables. You can't just let her eat the food she wants. You should provide her a nutritious diet. Children always want to play and might always skip meals.
She will be unhappy. There will come a time when she might not get what she wants and it is something she is not used to.
Thus, she will get very depressed and hate herself. Tendency is that, she might do something even if it's dangerous or bad just to get what she wants.
Example would be cheating in order to win. A child who went through permissive parenting will have a low emotional quotient or EQ.
She will not care what she wants might be at the expense of others. She will have trouble having friends.
Without self-discipline, it would be hard for her to achieve her goals. The reason why you should set rules and discipline your child is to make her understand that there are certain things she cannot do.
Studies have shown that children who underwent permissive parenting engage in risky behaviour. Possible outcomes are dropping out of school, teenage pregnancy, and drug abuse.
Permissive parenting is not an ideal parenting style. Not permitting your child to do all she wants does not make you a bad parent.
You set rules and discipline her for her own betterment and not because you want to punish her. You should guide her as she grows and make her understand why she has rules to follow.
If you want your child to behave better, then you are going to need my book to guide you in the best principles. You can get it from here.
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