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Toddler Tantrums:
How To Deal With It

Having a hard time dealing with toddler tantrums? You are not the only one.

Toddler Tantrums
Temper tantrums, also known as "The Terrible Twos" usually peak when your child is between 2 to 3 years old.

They can sometimes happen earlier. If your toddler is having these outbursts, don't panic.

Temper tantrums are a natural consequence of toddlers' development. It means that your child is growing perfectly well.

Toddler tantrums are signs that your child is aware that she is a different person from you and she has her own wants, but she just does not know how to express her feelings.

It can also be a result when she is hungry, sleepy, angry, frustrated, being refused something, or seeking attention.

So she starts kicking, screaming, stamping her feet, or lying on the floor.

Dealing with temper tantrums might be frustrating especially when your toddler can burst anytime regardless of time or place.

But there are ways to handle these toddler tantrums and here are some tips...

1. Relax. Stay Calm.

Don't get mad or hysterical when your toddler throws temper tantrums. Stay calm and speak softly.

Ask her to explain to you why she is so upset, if it is unclear to you why she is reacting that way. It is the only way you can help her by showing that you are not against her.

But if your toddler does not know how to speak yet, you can tell her what you think her tantrum was all about.

Try to hug her but if she still rejects you and continues her tantrums, don't hug her. Be firm but still in a calm way.

2. Ignore Her Behavior And Avoid Eye Contact.

Pretending not to take notice of toddler tantrums or walking away from her can sometimes cool things down.

So once your toddler starts a tantrum, do not give any attention. Don't give any eye contact, no words, and do not react.

Because once you respond to her outbursts and give her what she wants, she would learn that her tantrums are working and she would definitely do it again and again.

3. Do Not Reason Out.

When your toddler begins her temper tantrums, she is beyond reason. If you try to explain things to her or rationalize, it's like you are trying to reason to a fish.

She will not listen to you, nor understand. Also, if you spank or yell at her, you will just intensify the outburst.

4. Ensure Safety.

You have to make sure the surroundings are safe. Your toddler might lie on the floor and roll over.

If there are sharp objects, edges, glasses, or anything that can hurt her, transfer her to a safer area.

Do not even try to restrain her unless it's necessary because it can increase her tantrums. In case you are in a public place, you should stop what you are doing and bring your child to a secluded area or bring her home.

This can really be inconvenient but she will eventually learn that you don't want to tolerate such behaviour.

These are just some of the tips on how to deal with toddler tantrums. Just remember not to give in and lose your temper when your child starts these outbursts.

These tantrums are just part of growing up and will eventually be outgrown when your child reaches 4 years old.

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